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My Penis and I

This is a film I made (The Author) in 2005 for the BBC. “I guess this thing is about having a small dick, and it’s horrible saying that because it’s true…. And why is it such a problem? This is what this film is about”. My Penis and I follows my two-year journey to discover if size matters. It charts the effect my penis has had on my life, my family and my relationship with my girlfriend Nicola. The film is now out of BBC licensing and I am free to distribute it non-commercially.

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  1. if u see this plssssssss mail me [email protected]

  2. penis size does matter to women!!
    c’mon women don’t lie most women like big dicks…

  3. bop!

  4. size does matter to me. if i can’t feel anything i don’t enjoy it. period. small dick men are right up there with premature ejaculators. you will not get a second chance with me. nothing wrong with preference. if there’s something that a man doesn’t like about me, i’m cool with that because everything isn’t for everybody. i’ll find the size i like and he can find whatever he likes. it’s a big wide world. find who and what you like and live life baby!!

    • Its not point saying if there is nothing wrong with preference but yet you have criticised some one with a penis who many not be what you prefer less pleasurable, premature ejaculators. No woman is truly stone cold the fact of the matter is if someone you cared about ever criticised you in anyway you would be hurt. I wonder what would happen if the man you loved said your vagina is loose, your hair looks like a mess, you breath stinks if only your boobs were just fuller and a wishes you were slimmer?

  5. I feel terrible for him….and I thought I had a complexion…

  6. He may have a smaller penis than you keyboard warriors but he has way bigger balls than you making this.

  7. I always knew those rugby players were gay

  8. His girlfriend seems pretty cold.

  9. wow, brave man. that is A SMALL penis….

  10. I have a bigger clit than his Johnson. I empathise with him, we’re both ‘abnormal’ down there – I used to be insecure about it too. Both men and women make fun of the opposite’s sex genitalia, I’ve heard men comment on ‘big lips’ or that she was ‘too loose’ abd I’ve hear women saying he was ‘too small’ or ‘his balls were hung too low’.

  11. And ironically in Ancient Greece big penises were considered gross and barbaric and small penises were thought of as  more superior and more ascetically pleasing. 

    You were born in the wrong Era mate.

  12. I’m pretty sure liam is an asshole.

  13. 24:45 Dude where’s your gloves at???….seriously?!?!?!?

  14. I feel so sorry for this guy. I can relate to him, I have a six inch penis and I know its too small. My girlfriend never says anything but I know she’d love a bigger one. You need at least seven inches, eight is ideal but why is it that only ten percent of men have seven or more??????? Everyone is giving out about the girls at 23.00, but that’s their choice if they want a big penis. I like girls with big natural breasts, does that make me a bad person???

    • That’s your mind playing tricks on you. Where did you come up with the numbers? You imagined what would be the ‘right’ size. Men are about 96.4% ego, and the rest hair on their ass. Don’t spend too much time trying to think unless you have the ideal amount of Estrogen. I imagine it to be about 74.2% more than Testosterone. Signed – Big Dick Dan

    • I dont think its about people being angry about their preference its how they are perceiving men with smaller penises. Its not what you say it how you say it.

  15. this made me think and the girls i did it with told me diameter is more important than length! and everything above 7cm and below 12cm in length is perfectly normal!

  16. I’m pretty sure if this guy had a 8 incher he still wouldn’t get laid

  17. You can ask all the women in the world about how penis size matters or not, and you will receive many diverse answers, but most will be framed in such a way as not to offend the man asking the question of them. A man asking such a question will always have a niggling doubt when they receive a kind answer from a woman on this issue, but when he receives an answer stating that it does matter, how self-debilitating would it be for him if he were to accept that to be the truth?

    Procreatively, a small penis is only a problem if it hampers the ability to sire off-spring, and modern science can help with that. However, penis size anxiety is more about wanting to satisfy one’s partner physically, because we all want to meet the needs of our partners so that they don’t feel in themselves the need to stray and look elsewhere for their satisfaction. When we love a person, we don’t want to feel ourselves so sexually inadequate physically that we think we may lose them to someone else. That kind of thinking is highly debilitating and self-reinforcing of the anxiety.

    For men having penis size anxiety issues, the first step is to overcome the absence of sexual self-esteem, which in turn dilutes a man’s self-perception of his his worth as a adult male.
    Sex is an important part of our world, especially as part of one’s expression of love towards one’s partner, but it is only a part of the whole, and as long as the other parts are doing fine, together the couple can help the man overcome his anxieties regarding the size of his penis.

    Fact of the matter is, for many women, penis size does matter, but for many others it doesn’t. It’s the same for gay men, some are size queens, whilst others are not…it’s about personal preference.

    A large penis on a man maybe considered more aesthetically pleasing to the eye than one with a small penis, but in ancient Greek and Roman art, it wasn’t, it was anathema to portray a large penis…look at the statue of David.

    There is no way anyone can give a definitive answer of aid to any man with penis anxiety in such a small space, but I would hope that any man having such anxieties would come to recognize that he is not alone, and that he can overcome the aniety. Just do the research and they will see that penis anxiety affects men having large penis’, too.

  18. a brave man. Well done sir !

  19. I can’t watch this cause all he is doing is denying the fact what everyone is telling him, I mean the doctor suggested surgery he said no. Well I mean its nothing wrong with having a small cock, I don’t see as penis size is a problem to me cause its not. I’ve made love with guys who cock was small, and it was the most enjoyable thing ever. I think he needs to just chill and enjoy what he has, I mean if his girl likes it just as it is, he needs to stop complaining so much about nothing. 

  20. It hurts when is too big, I can’t move freely and I don’t enjoy it… I think size doesn’t matter, what it matter is what you do with it, be creative 😉 
    And indeed that teenagers can be very cruel and mean with each other, but at the end of the day somehow we all have had that feeling about changing something on our bodies, just deal with it.Feel confident with your body, enjoy yourself and enjoy your partner.

  21. Size matters, but it’s not a dealbreaker. Certainly nothing to consider surgery over.

  22. After watching this video i got a feeling that i met a fat ass  who is very low of confidence due to a stupid reason!!!! I dont blame this guy coz he was bullied in school and the fact was imbibed on his mind since he was a child.But the best part is this guy has a wonderful soul. I hope he has figured out that size doesn’t matter but erection and stamina does.To achieve the later two aspects confidence, self belief and love n pride for ur assets are very important. I am damn confident that sooner or later he will get there!!!!
    All in all a wonderful video which will help a lot of people like him.

  23. Really brave guy

  24. I really like this guy.  What a sweetheart!

  25. well i have a massive knob and i can tell you… size matters, i get bitches all the time and they love it xoxo bigbarnzlow

  26. What a fantastic documentary.  It really is a breath of fresh air to see someone finally making a statement about the insecurities a man can have about his custard cannon’s size.  

    It’s just too bad that we are constantly pressured in our society that we need to be of a certain standard.  

    To Laura Chandler: 
    It isn’t just men that are judgemental of women’s bodies.  Everyone is judgemental of everyone, and every person is guilty of it.  Yes there are men that are going to make you feel like shit.  There are women that will do the same.   As for your comment, “My goodness, men certainly are touchy about their own bodies and critical about women’s.”, you sound as if you are implying that men shouldn’t be sensitive about the way they perceive themselves.  It makes you sound sexist.  I realize there are many men that are pigs out there that make you feel like your boobs aren’t good enough.  However, the way you are going about saying that women get gawked at, commented on, and calling it hypocritical that men are sensitive about their penis size, is hypocrisy to the tee.    I have female friends that have walked out on a man when they have taken off his trousers because of his cock size.  Can you imagine how that would feel?  You take home a good looking guy who takes off your clothes and looks at your vagina with a weird face and then laughs and walks out… I think i have made my point that women can equally be as bad as men are for being pigs.  I hope you meet a nice guy that makes you feel beautiful.  

  27. What a fantastic documentary.  It really is a breath of fresh air to see someone finally making a statement about the insecurities a man can have about his custard cannon’s size.  

    It’s just too bad that we are constantly pressured in our society that we need to be of a certain standard.  

    To Laura Chandler: 
    It isn’t just men that are judgemental of women’s bodies.  Everyone is judgemental of everyone, and every person is guilty of it.  Yes there are men that are going to make you feel like shit.  There are women that will do the same.   As for your comment, “My goodness, men certainly are touchy about their own bodies and critical about women’s.”, you sound as if you are implying that men shouldn’t be sensitive about the way they perceive themselves.  It makes you sound sexist.  I realize there are many men that are pigs out there that make you feel like your boobs aren’t good enough.  However, the way you are going about saying that women get gawked at, commented on, and calling it hypocritical that men are sensitive about their penis size, is hypocrisy to the tee.    I have female friends that have walked out on a man when they have taken off his trousers because of his cock size.  Can you imagine how that would feel?  You take home a good looking guy who takes off your clothes and looks at your vagina with a weird face and then laughs and walks out… I think i have made my point that women can equally be as bad as men are for being pigs.  I hope you meet a nice guy that makes you feel beautiful.  

  28. The freeness with which men criticize the female body…
    If it makes you uncomfortable to hear women talking negatively about a male body, think about the amount of criticism women hear of their bodies on a daily basis. Turn on the TV and watch commercials. They are 80% revolving around women fixing their skin, loosing weight, changing their hair colour, and so forth. I don’t think it is right to criticize any one’s body; be is male or female. Our bodies are our vessels for enjoying this beautiful Earth! 

    • I completely agree! Men are extremely shallow whether they admit it or not. I have small boobs and an unattractive body, and I know I’ll never find a man. If it was all about personality… girls wouldn’t be piling on the makeup and getting plastic surgery.

  29. Well, i´m black and…mhh wel dont be Maad xD

  30. I have to agree about the boob comments. Guys definitely judge and frequently comment on their size. Imagine if every pair of pants you wore clung to your body and displayed the size & shape of your penis to everybody the way that a typical women’s shirt reveals her boobs. At least men get to determine who they show their penises to.

    Anyway, there are a LOT of women that have small vaginas and prefer men that won’t tear them up. Most women (in my opinion) are compassionate enough to try and make their men feel comfortable & confident with their bodies. We’re not all like the horrible girls at 23:00!

  31. I have to agree about the boob comments. Guys definitely judge and frequently comment on their size. Imagine if every pair of pants you wore clung to your body and displayed the size & shape of your penis to everybody the way that a typical women’s shirt reveals her boobs. At least men get to determine who they show their penises to.

    Anyway, there are a LOT of women that have small vaginas and prefer men that won’t tear them up. Most women (in my opinion) are compassionate enough to try and make their men feel comfortable & confident with their bodies. We’re not all like the horrible girls at 23:00!

  32. creativity is everything! showing the world your view on your small dick is no exception. you are a brilliant man Lawrence! i’m sure you’ve figured out that it’s not the size that matters in fact but how you use it! be creative! break the mold of people’s pre-conceptions of big dicks and show the world what big dicks can’t do!
    power to you brother and keep on fucking!

  33. length actually doesn’t matter that much. But diameter does. At least if the guy doesn’t have any other “skills” or techniques. To satisfy a woman is manly a thing of the mind and the chemistry between the partners

  34. length actually doesn’t matter that much. But diameter does. At least if the guy doesn’t have any other “skills” or techniques. To satisfy a woman is manly a thing of the mind and the chemistry between the partners

  35. his gf seems like a cunt somtimes

  36. his gf seems like a cunt somtimes

  37. how interesting….Your comments as well….

  38. One of the most bravest and heart renching doco’s Ive ever seen. Hats off to you mate for being a big enough man to face your fears and overcome them..
    Those pissed tarts dont know anything.. An honest sober women doesnt care what the size of the cock is when its attatched to the man she loves.. Its not what it is its how you use it….

  39. that girl at 23:00 must be big as hell in her vagina. I think I’m the only female in the world where size doesn’t matter. Just love the girl. If she’s a good girl, she’ll please you and if you respect her and love her and cuddle, she’ll give the world to you. That’s all I want anyway. 

  40. Good documentary. Finally, a man who can come out and talk about the issue. We all feel this insecurity guys, so don’t act like you don’t. The girls outside of the bar were just whores. 

  41. Good documentary. Finally, a man who can come out and talk about the issue. We all feel this insecurity guys, so don’t act like you don’t. The girls outside of the bar were just whores. 

  42. All you fellas raging at the girls at the 23:00: I wonder how often you have commented with abandon on the size, shape, firmness and bounce of a girls tits? Indeed, the hypocrisy is astounding. The day we ladies have a full on conversation staring at the front of a man’s trousers is the day you can all criticize. My goodness, men certainly are touchy about their own bodies and critical about womens.

    • I’m with you Miss Laura. And the ones that say that size does not matter. SIZE MATTERS A LOT!!!!

    • Your lack of understanding is clear about men and how our bodies work. Not saying all women fall into the the same categories but most women are incredibly cynical and are completely oblivious to how insensitive they can be towards men. Now it is understandable that emotions can influence how women respond to certain things that still no excuse and often women contradict themselves in what they say and how they act, but if men showed the same level of disrespect and insensitivity to a womans vagina or any other body part and throw up ridiculous comparisons in the same manner a lot of women do to a mans penis so publicly, we would have a lot more feminists and rights activists and man bashers than we do today and even more telling would be the rise of vagina reconstruction surgery or some kind of miracle pill. If men started to protest about the rights to have an normal sized penis a lot of these women would crawl back into the porn infested reality that they came from.

    • Only comment I’d make is that since breasts are generally fairly visible it’s not really possible to get such a skewed view of what is ‘normal’. Penises, especially when erect, are not normally on show and plenty people have only seen penises in porn. If people talk about it they tend to lie about their own size or experiences. So its very easy for views of ‘normal’ to get massively skewed.

    • tat day s long away! we dont walk showin off our dick bulg, and eyes can see only wat u want to show…

    • correction: “it’s NOT like I care if…”

    • However Laura, can you really compare a pair of boobs to a penis?

      a more fair comparison would be the size of the penis compared to the depth or tightness of a vagina or whatever

      compare boobs to boobs and genitals to genitals.

      Furthermore, I think the number of guys that are critical of their own appearance are increasing in number constantly.

      On a sidenote: though I never frown upon a nice pair of boobs, it’s like I care if they’re not there, it’s the face and the eyes I always check out first as well as the intellect of a girl, there is nothing more off-putting to me than a dumb person no matter how pretty she is.

      • laura you’re ridiculous. when do men go on ranting saying medium is the size of a full blown balloon on camera infront of a woman? yeah we talk about tits girls talk about dicks. but it’s the audaciousness of these clowns that’s remarkable. and you’re the hypocrite. men can criticize when woman have a conversation staring at a mans junk? when was the last time a group of men stood in front of you staring at your tits talking about them? and it is completely different. the whole world is more critical on dicks than on tits. girls will sleep with guys then talk about size among other things. 
        guys wont do that with tits. guys will however talk about how if that really is a medium dick for that woman how it was throwing a hot dog down a hallway. not to her face though. as you accuse men of doing so. i am critical of womans bodies. as i am of mine. i make an effort to look good, i can be critical to be with a girl that looks good.
        to say men a touchy about their bodies is hilarious. that is the epitome of a woman. 

        also the ugly one with short hair who kept repeating erect? erect!? erect!? can roll over and die. she’s lucky to see one dick. 

        • I happen to be good friends with a group of men, and being in that group I do hear about the way they talk about women behind their backs, and yes they do talk critically about the size of breasts. And they aren’t the only ones, (apparently men think they can include me in these conversations for some reason). I have also been criticised to my face about my own breasts or even that my vagina doesn’t look like a perfect porn stars (a good thing i would think). Yes there are men good men that don’t do this. As there are good women who do not talk about the size of mens penis’ behind their backs, I being one of them.

          I do completely agree with you on these particular women though, If they think medium is that big then they have must have a seriously loose vagina. 

          I don’t mind admitting in the slightest that men I have slept with that were on the smaller size (smallest being hardly poking out the top of my fist) were amazingly better at sex than the largest, which felt so uncomfortable I had to tell him to stop. 
          I have friends that have had the exact same experiences.

          • ya! size never matters, i should say my gf as small breast, but i never complained because i never thought about t. but one day she thought i had a crush for her friend but actually her friend was flirting, i didnt and i just thought her friend was more matured or actin to be tats all, so she didn ask me directly but asked me does i hav a problem wit her breast??? becuse she knows, tats when i actually realised her breast were small, and it didnt bother me at all because i love her not her body parts
            but i do agree tat it and looks does matters in the very beginning, later its how much she loves and how much effort u put ONLY counts

  43. “That’s a lovely looking penis, isn’t it?” Cracks me up.

  44. Those girls around the 23rd minute are drunk and stupid. What asses.

  45. This was really great, really touching and even very inspiring. I have to say it was pretty funny tho – HOW IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH MY PENIS is really hilarious out of context.

  46. This hurts to watch, simply because. Why the hell should anybody feel bad about their own god damn bodies? They’re our own bodies and no one else’s it’s what makes us different from one another. No one should tell us how we should look and how we shouldn’t, whats average and what isn’t. What we say is average for ourselves is just that and no one can tell us any different. 

  47. THis guys is really a brave man to full on face his insecurities in such a transparent way. I have to say that as a man watching this it did open up my perspectives in regard to accepting me and body in general as it is and not just my penis.

  48. THis guys is really a brave man to full on face his insecurities in such a transparent way. I have to say that as a man watching this it did open up my perspectives in regard to accepting me and body in general as it is and not just my penis.

  49. Nice guy, my  heart goes out to him…

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