The Virgin Daughters

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Cutting Edge explores the purity movement in America, where one girl in every six pledges to remain a virgin, or to save her first kiss, until her wedding day.

Award-winning documentary-maker Jane Treays investigates whether this decision is made by the girls themselves or their parents, and follows a group of fathers and daughters as they prepare to attend a `purity ball’ in Colorado Springs, run by Randy Wilson and his wife Lisa.

 

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  • Effik

    no virgin sons???

  • Effik

    no virgin sons???

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  • Love Europe

    Whats up with the over protecting parents?? Thank god I live in Europe :)

  • Maia Mcallister

    That was interesting. After hearing so much about how abstinence doesn’t work, it is interesting to hear their motivations. It is nice to see it comes from a place of love. Perhaps we can all agree on some of what they say, like important father daughter relationships, and the importance of sex, and how its easy to go to far. It was all about love. Sex ed is still really, really important, and so is forgiveness, judging from that one girls pregnancy story.  

  • Maia Mcallister

    That was interesting. After hearing so much about how abstinence doesn’t work, it is interesting to hear their motivations. It is nice to see it comes from a place of love. Perhaps we can all agree on some of what they say, like important father daughter relationships, and the importance of sex, and how its easy to go to far. It was all about love. Sex ed is still really, really important, and so is forgiveness, judging from that one girls pregnancy story.  

  • Fuck you

    This is one step away from incest.

    America what the fuck is wrong with you?

    • eek..

      that is what i was thinking dude. those fathers are creepy.. and i promise you, this is not typical america. 

  • Craazyy…….

    i think that the whole father/daughter relationship is important but sex is apart of being human. its important to experience it before you get married; at least thats what i thiink. girls who have sex before marriage are not all looking for fatherly attention outside the home. girls who do that are usually ones with bad fathers, no fathers, have been abused, families have lower income etc. having young intimate relationships is not bad, its a beautiful part of growing up. you learn alot about who you are, who you like, what you want from a relationship…just because you wait til marriage doesnt guarantee a good man, good sex, no divorce, no heartbreak, no hurt. and last point….what about the boys???? why arent boys doing this, pledging their virginity. 

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Alexander-López/631013694 Alexander López

      I do agree that “sex is a part of being human”. It’s funny how a typo can change your text and put you in the other side of the argument by saying “sex is apart of being human”. I guess I’m a grammar freak.

  • Mac

    There are many forms of mind control, and it’s always best to have young flexible minds to mold, just ask any military recruitment officer, hopefully they are able to adjust to reality when it comes knocking on their door.

  • Mac

    There are many forms of mind control, and it’s always best to have young flexible minds to mold, just ask any military recruitment officer, hopefully they are able to adjust to reality when it comes knocking on their door.

  • Anonymous

    The one dad said “how cool would it be to say I’ve kissed one man in my life.” What happens if the husband of the ‘pure’ daughter turns out to be abusive. If the daughter has a mentality that it’s so important to remain with one person, she could end up creating a mental blockade, crippling her and making her ability to leave her husband next to impossible.

  • leah003

    “im not interested in them getting cancer of the cervix.” 
    hahaha, what a guy eh

  • Simon Phaneuf

    i have two words  to write. –  overprotective fathers.

  • http://www.facebook.com/brokenhallelujah Gerree Natalee Serrels-Clark

    Why did they steal the soundtrack from the movie “Glory”? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pa6hyhgV6Ps&feature=related

  • guest1989

    they make it sound as if fathers that don’t choose the path for their daughters are bad parents. What about people of other faiths besides whatever denomination of christianity this is. How do they view them? and no virgin sons?!

  • Dn_silva

    I believe that tolerance to all sort of creeds is quite important, but this view about how to live a life it is totally unrealistic in my opinion. I am not a supporter of promiscuity but i believe sex has a heavy weight in a relationship and if it doesnt work, the relationship will be hardly healthy. I think marriage is like buying shoes(even though sounds silly), you need to try them before buying.

  • http://www.facebook.com/SherilynWilman Sherilyn Wilman

    I do agree with the fact that if a father is not in a young girls life she might seek approval from other men who could potentially be bad for them. Otherwise, this is a bit too much.

  • http://www.facebook.com/people/Angie-Radar-Richards/100000562486490 Angie Radar Richards

    that little girl need to reread the commandments cause i dont believe theirs a you shall not make kissey kissey face with bobby down the block

  • Wpsyclone

    Holly shit!
    They are all living in a box with no windows to outside world
    If you want your kids without spinal cord, personality and a real knowlege of life…well keep them virgin untill menopause :)
    I’m from an eastern-european country that nobody gives a shit but it’s better here than in the wack-world.

  • not a chance

    what the fuck.. our world is completely  run by capitalists wanting to manipulate and drain its victims 

  • not a chance

    what the fuck.. our world is completely  run by capitalists wanting to manipulate and drain its victims 

  • get a life

    its also strange we need a licence to do so many thing in today’s age… but you can manipulate your kids.. no licence needed 

    • Zsuzsanna

      Sometimes I think licence is needed to HAVE kids. Lol

  • Shane

    vomit …

  • Zsuzsanna

    1:07 Sooo disturbing to see how he caresses his daughter’s neck. The whole thing is creepy, bordering incest (and we don’t know what’s going on at home)

  • Zsuzsanna

    What’s with the cross? You can’t be pure in you don’t believe in an imaginary man up in the sky and his zombie son? What kind of prejudice is that?

  • Anonymous

    These father’s are control freaks and are stunting their daughters.  Why not let them decide what’s right for them and not thrust this decision on them before they’re even thinking about it. They are NOT property.  Their sexuality is not some DOWRY.  This is all about the father’s ego.  Disgusting.

  • qwe

    one of the more disturbing things to see

  • Lexus108

    men are evil, daddy is going to inspect the boy for me ,….. let her hit puberty hormones will beat faith by a lottt

  • Gabriel

    This was made in 2008 and it is ’11. Keesha is 19 now? Alright.

  • Gabriel

    This was made in 2008 and it is ’11. Keesha is 19 now? Alright.

  • Sarah

    Where once this was common, now people write “vomit” in the comments section. *rolls eyes* My husband and I didn’t have sex until we got married. We’ve been happily married for seven years now. If anything, it’s a mature decision, not a “nauseating” decision.

    • PaZenqiul

      Many people often believe that newer generations are less moral and more promiscuous than older generations. This has been said for centuries and is just a trick of the mind.

    • PaZenqiul

      Many people often believe that newer generations are less moral and more promiscuous than older generations. This has been said for centuries and is just a trick of the mind.

    • PaZenqiul

      Many people often believe that newer generations are less moral and more promiscuous than older generations. This has been said for centuries and is just a trick of the mind.

    • http://www.facebook.com/people/Madelene-Cyr/100000314560760 Madelene Cyr

      You’re missing the point, Sarah. Waiting until marriage for sex is one thing, being brainwashed and pressured into it is another. These parents are obviously overbearing on their children, using tactics of shame and guilt to rule their lives. It’s frightening how they treat young women like cattle…

      And as for ‘mature decision’…if you trust someone enough to marry them, then you should trust them enough to sleep with them. Marriage isn’t a stronghold, and it’s easy to get out of through divorce; it hardly means anything but a deduction of taxes. Sexual activity is healthy for a growing individual, the ‘nauseating’ part if when young adults are shamed for their natural growth and exploration. 

  • Steve

    it must be nice to live in a bubble … until it pops.

    • Kirisumasu

      hahahaha…yes i agree. but if we take away the core of how “creepy” it sounds, i think for a woman thinking about their sexuality in it its purest form. I think that is valuable. it is way too easy to throw away something so precious. plus, it does not help how the media portrays women’s sexuality.

  • Amalai

    Where is the mother-son purity ball?  Purity is a personal and spiritual choice. All dating chaperoned or in groups?  Where is the line?  Parental relationships are key – but there needs to be love.  This is not love, this is control.  Anxiety and guilt stemming from the parents is becoming manifested here as meticulous and suffocating control.  These ladies are going to remain permanent children.  They are not being permitted to mature and grow intellectually or spirituality.  What are they going to do when their fathers die?  “my daughters will have the same freedoms and liberties awarded to all other women of this society.”  That’s a cryptic statement…What women currently have or what you would like to see them have?  Sharing a kiss does not seal a relationship.  It is intimate and beautiful – but it is not a sin.  These men have a serious God complex.  They are pretending to be God and guess what – that’s a sin.

  • Crazysole

    The American religious right has done it again….  They are off base, out of touch with reality it’s freaking scary!

  • Andrea

    If this is really about wanting the young girls to be treated well by men, then shouldn’t the focus be on the boys- and training them to be respectful?  Why isn’t there a “mother and son” ball? 
         This is nothing new, they just found a new way to control women, and treat them like property. 
         Another thing- heartache is part of the human experience.   By trying to sheild these girls, they are destroying their human experience.  They will all end up with cold empty hearts. 
         And how disgusting was that dad with the toupee?

  • Andrea

    If this is really about wanting the young girls to be treated well by men, then shouldn’t the focus be on the boys- and training them to be respectful?  Why isn’t there a “mother and son” ball? 
         This is nothing new, they just found a new way to control women, and treat them like property. 
         Another thing- heartache is part of the human experience.   By trying to sheild these girls, they are destroying their human experience.  They will all end up with cold empty hearts. 
         And how disgusting was that dad with the toupee?

  • Andrea

    If this is really about wanting the young girls to be treated well by men, then shouldn’t the focus be on the boys- and training them to be respectful?  Why isn’t there a “mother and son” ball? 
         This is nothing new, they just found a new way to control women, and treat them like property. 
         Another thing- heartache is part of the human experience.   By trying to sheild these girls, they are destroying their human experience.  They will all end up with cold empty hearts. 
         And how disgusting was that dad with the toupee?

    • katrina

      i fully agree with you, i was thinking the exact same thing watching this. it’s just disgusting, to watch these young girls swearing their virginity away to their fathers. some of them are hardly even old enough to be thinking about sex, let alone deciding if they want to wait until marriage or not. it’s so sad for me to see these girls being manipulated into thinking they are doing the right thing. i’m not saying there is anything wrong with waiting until marriage, but being physical is part of a relationship–not specifically sex, but hand-holding, cuddling, etc. and i think telling them otherwise, and denying them that, is wrong. 

  • South Asian Indian

    Chose to live in an illusion…

    Its a cult… They are just striving for an identity beautifully provided by the “founders” of the cult… I mean get a life! Though in many parts of the world girls kind of marry one man- kiss him till they are married and all… This doesnt mean that those who have been in many relations have lost something “So pure” … I dont even know if the first intercourse is purer than a life spent with a man who you love and chose to be in love with.

    Though– the only thing I do agree with — the world is really obssessed with sex these days… this might have been the motive behind the whole movement… buh no– they’ve gone too far!

    • same as above… forgot to add

      AND BY THE WAY — WHATS WITH ALL THE NON EXISTING VIRGIN SONS????????

  • Applemagnet

    Do they realise they are gonna wait for that someone special, meanwhile that someone special will be watching as much pornography, and visiting stip clubs as he can, Men are creeps, my advise is abstain altogether and buy a good dildo

  • upset over this

    these fathers are breeding mindless women … sad  

  • Anonymous

    Yep, it all makes sense now…I’ve had sex therefore I’m probably going to end up a single parent.  Just because you save your virginity for marriage doesn’t guarentee you from heartbreak and being left alone to raise kids.

  • Anonymous

    Another thought-There’s all this talk about these dad’s who “inspect” their daughter’s potential boyfriends and clear them to be their daughters as being better dads… I disagree completely.  My dad TRUSTS me and my sister to make the right decisions about guys.  He knows that we will make the right choices when it comes to them.

  • Aceline05

    Choosing to stay a virgin etc by yourself is fine and good but shielding children to this extent is a little insane. Education is more important than shielding :( It’ll be a shocker when they finally get out into the real world. They’re missing out on the human experience. Good or bad. 

  • Tiffany

    What I took from this documentary is how innocent and good these little girls are and then they grow up and are corrupted by society………..If they are strong in their faith they will over come temptation if they are weak they will fall. 

  • Danlatour1

    It’s a whole system based on irresponsibility. Like that woman around 6:30 who tells us she got pregnant because nobody told her about hormones, the birds and the bees. Or that man who had 9 children with 7 different women !!!

    You people should leave god (wich does’nt exist) out of this and start being responsible for your decisions and your actions.

    Those people practice what we could call psychological incest.

  • Danlatour1

    It’s a whole system based on irresponsibility. Like that woman around 6:30 who tells us she got pregnant because nobody told her about hormones, the birds and the bees. Or that man who had 9 children with 7 different women !!!

    You people should leave god (wich does’nt exist) out of this and start being responsible for your decisions and your actions.

    Those people practice what we could call psychological incest.

  • lynn

    this whole purity ball is ridiculous, but saving yourself for marriage is not in my opinion! i’ve been dating a guy for 2 and a half years and both of us are virgins, and plan to remain that way until our wedding days, whether that be to each other or to whoever our future spouse may be. we were in now way brainwashed, we just find it as something important to both of us and something that as Christians we find God calls us to do. And also, my boyfriend didn’t have to ask my parents to date me…I have a brain of my own and they lt me live my life.

    Now everyone messes up, and I’m not exempt from that, I could certainly mess up, but I don’t think it’s unrealistic…I’m a pretty down to earth person. Look at the stats, couples that saved themselves statistically have more enjoyable sex…I’ve been waiting for so long it’s gonna be great

    • swedish viking

      nuts… you have no idea HOW to do it either when times comes. practice makes perfect…and believe me… i’m gog gift to women. i do my best to give as many women as possible as many orgasms as possible. that’s my gift to you. by the way. their is no god. i mean do you also believe in santa? 

      • HDAGilmore

        That is a little harsh. I myself didn’t wait until I was wed, but that was my personal choice. The girl has values that were not pushed on her by others and that deserves respect. If they learn together then they can help find what the other likes without getting stuck in a sort of “routine” that most men and women do. I’m not a Christian or a virgin, but I say good for Lynn. She knows what she wants and shouldn’t be made to feel outcast because of it.  

  • Andzone

    Ridiculous American hypocrites……just as bad their Muslim fundamentalist counterparts. WAKE UP and get your heads out of your ass!!

  • Lyall14bb

    Well people are reacting to two things in these comments. Firstly the no sex before marriage thing was very mainstream not so long ago so i don’t mind that these people are trying to uphold values that society has discarded.

    I think the other thing that is hard for people to process is the mannerisms and glazey eyed look of the American Evangelicals on this video. It would appear that 1 in every 6 Americans is related to Ned Flanders going by the look in these peoples faces. I think this is what is creeping people out more then the whole chastity issue. These people look like they have been sleeping in a sack full of opium for the last 10 years. They’re high on Jesus and they have the vacant stare to prove it!!

  • double wonderful

    This is what struck me:

     

     “At the ball’s
    centerpiece is a homemade wooden cross around which all the attending daughters
    will dance, and pledge their commitment to a pure life.”

     

    Wouldn’t pagans (women) dance around an erected, wooden
    maypole as part of fertility ritual/sex worship – the maypole being a phallic
    symbol? 

     

    Sorry if someone already said this.

  • double wonderful

    This is what struck me:

     

     “At the ball’s
    centerpiece is a homemade wooden cross around which all the attending daughters
    will dance, and pledge their commitment to a pure life.”

     

    Wouldn’t pagans (women) dance around an erected, wooden
    maypole as part of fertility ritual/sex worship – the maypole being a phallic
    symbol? 

     

    Sorry if someone already said this.

    • Lianne

      I know this is from a while ago, but I saw no one ever answered this question. Pagans are not all women. We are women and men. And the maypole dance is a ritual still practiced today on Beltane (May Day). The maypole is generally a really long log, and it is a phallic symbol. The dance is a celebration of fertility, because it is a fertile time of year.

      I hope that helps. :)

      • Bartzabel23

        umm, i don’t think they think all pagans are women, it’s that the women would be taking place in the fertility ritual. and i think it’s a rhetorical question illustrating the irony of christian chicks dancing around a pagan phallic symbol. they didn’t need help, just sayin’

        • Lianne Lavoie

          “umm, i don’t think they think all pagans are women, it’s that the women would be taking place in the fertility ritual”

          But both men and women take part in that fertility ritual…

          I don’t think it was clear whether or not the question was rhetorical, so I decided to answer just in case it might answer someone’s question. So whether the original commenter needed help or not, I saw a misconception about Paganism and decided to correct it. I don’t see why that would bother you.

        • Lianne Lavoie

          “umm, i don’t think they think all pagans are women, it’s that the women would be taking place in the fertility ritual”

          But both men and women take part in that fertility ritual…

          I don’t think it was clear whether or not the question was rhetorical, so I decided to answer just in case it might answer someone’s question. So whether the original commenter needed help or not, I saw a misconception about Paganism and decided to correct it. I don’t see why that would bother you.

      • Bartzabel23

        umm, i don’t think they think all pagans are women, it’s that the women would be taking place in the fertility ritual. and i think it’s a rhetorical question illustrating the irony of christian chicks dancing around a pagan phallic symbol. they didn’t need help, just sayin’

  • Leah Herpderp

    Okay, I’m all for saving yourself for marriage or choosing to abstain from sex for a set period of time. I am 18 and still a virgin and in my experience, my choice has given me a different perspective about relationships and what is important in a person. However, I completely disagree with what they say about girls without fathers. I have grown up without a father in my life yet here I am, making the same choices as them about who I want to marry and seeking a committed, monogomous, serious relationship. I never ran off with every guy who threw me a piece of bait like these people seem to think. Their heart is in the right place, but seriously, they have no idea what theyre talking about.

  • Ante

    I stopped watching around 3 minutes in when the girls were carrying a phallic symbol on their shoulders.

    Ignorant fools.

  • Jazz

    Andrea, I completely agree. That is exactly what my husband and I were just saying!

  • Oliviadocouto

    My problem with this whole idea is that young children, who have not yet had a chance to form their OWN opinion are being brought into this, and if the have sex, their families turn away from them.  How is that following Christ? People (not just these people) say they are following God, yet they are all intolerant, and un-Christ like. Also, girls sexual educations are being completely ignored and that is not safe for them.

  • http://www.facebook.com/Cookie.Taz Aisa Ginger Jake Psenicnik

    I’m only four minutes in and I’m already squicked out. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/Cookie.Taz Aisa Ginger Jake Psenicnik

    I’m only four minutes in and I’m already squicked out. 

  • wildmosaic

    do they think that their husbands will throw them a ball every night just to let them know that they love them… no wonder some women are so demanding. and the whole “relationship”… that is no bloody relationship, thats just some freak telling you what he wants you to think. can you imagine fucked things these men would do in their spare time? this was a great doco… just shows how fucked up America is, of course not all of it but who the fuck thinks of this stuff!

  • patricia

    Wow…powerful documentary!
      One one hand, it is wonderful to see an emphasis on women being valued (as stated, at least).  And it is good to see the strong relationship between parents and children.
       On the other hand…it is absolutely heartbreaking!  The girl who got pregnant, the control some of the fathers exercise over their daughters, the lack of emphasis on the “correct” behavior of the sons…

    All in all, I am grateful that I did not grow up with this…and I wish all those involved the very best!

  • Lilu324

    what if one of their daughters were gay?

  • Lianne

    One girl said that one of the ten commandments is not to be intimate before your wedding. Umm, which one? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ten_Commandments None of them…

    • Lianne

      Whoops, I posted too soon. Apparently it’s the adultery one. Because you’re cheating on your future husband. Le sigh.

    • Lianne

      Whoops, I posted too soon. Apparently it’s the adultery one. Because you’re cheating on your future husband. Le sigh.

  • Lianne

    One girl said that one of the ten commandments is not to be intimate before your wedding. Umm, which one? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ten_Commandments None of them…

  • Lianne

    One girl said that one of the ten commandments is not to be intimate before your wedding. Umm, which one? http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ten_Commandments None of them…

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  • Lexa

    Yes Yes “how special would it be to say I’ve kissed but one man in my life”. But what about “I’ve kissed but one girl in my life” ? Quite impossible

  • sheila

    This is unfortunate. These dads are teaching their daughters that if they follow these rules they will never experience the problems or pain that could be experienced from pre-marital sex (broken heart, stds, unwanted pregnancy), but all of those things could just as easily happen if you follow the rules. They are setting them up with an unrealistic fantasy of romance, while inflicting a kind of creepy dominant male fantasy on them (women MUST be virgins, men not necessarily) . What are these girls going to do if their husband has an affair and they contract an STD? Or they never find this vision of a man they have been taught to hold out for? I think it’s great that they are focusing on instilling these girls with a lot of self worth and self respect, but they still need to be given the freedom and education to make that decision for themselves. I can see how that fantasy is appealing since the world is a scary, abusive, hyper sexual place, and these parents want to shield their kids from that. Unfortunately in the real world things don’t always work out the way that these people seem to want them to. I wish they would focus more on teaching men how to treat women properly, as opposed to teaching women how to be virgins.

  • http://facekitt.com Nicole

    Heart breaks and challenges in life are part of how I developed my maturity. So I probably don’t agree 100% with this documentary. I wouldn’t want my parents to shelter me to the degree of my love life. & why has this gotta be focused on the girls? Where are the purity boys? 

  • http://facekitt.com Nicole

    Also, why does the parent has to “approve” before you can date someone? You are suppose to validate when you are dating, and not being validated before you go on dates. It’s like judging a book by its cover.

    And jessica is a good example of why having sex is a very natural process and not to wait till you get married. People in our generation marry LATE (20-30s), whereas people in the biblical times probably marry in their teens. Waiting times are different people! 

    The parent say like it is for the sake of their daughters’ happiness to practice abstinence, but when their daughters break the pledge, like in Jessica’s case, they end up having an estranged relationship. The parents seem to dictate their daughters’  lives rather than genuinely want their girls to be happy. It’s like their way or the high way, what choice can their daughters have? The daughter have to suffer in the end, but oh well, that’s life.

    And precisely that she doesn’t know any “safe” practices, she only know’s “save”. 

    I get mad as I am typing… should not have watched this!

  • Duncan Idaho

    What Western American Male would “buy’ the goods so  to speak without having at least kissed the the woman?

  • Duncan Idaho

    How can prohibiting contact with the opposite half of humanity prepare these girls for life? There’s more ways of doing that than making them wear a burka.

  • yahaira

    I think this was sickening. Yes it is in the bible for one to wait until marriage, but in all honesty, how many of us actually did wait until marriage. The truth is we are sexual human beings, we were made to reproduce, and that in essence is the purpose of our lives. If you wait till marriage and it is YOUR choice, by all means stand by it. But if your forces to believe that at an age when you still think boys have “cooties”, thats unfair for the girl to make a valid decision for herself. Also the parents giving permission, thats not right, these daughters should be old enough to know their partners. Besides, whats up with his daughters being engaged and married within a year? It takes a lot more than a year to know if that someone is really the one. How many of us have been in a relationship longer than half a year, and found out that person wasn’t right for us?

  • Mrbarbkn

    “do you expect a boy to wait?” <- key question for this whole little practice

  • abod88

    They talk as though their daughters virginity is something they have to protect in case it is stolen or taken from them as opposed to something she has control over and the right to share with someone else. Messed up and sad.

  • Grimbird

    When I was 20 years old, I was a virgin and I had no desire to go to a bar and I lived at home. But my dad didn’t have anything to do with it. Comic books were so much more appealing than boys. I bet there are many things that girls find to be more appealing than sex or other “impure” things those fathers are afraid of. Why force the girls to be princesses when they could be finding out about all the wonders of the world and what it is that interests them. They can be so much more. Those interesting things could lead to anything. I’m going to have partly self-published comic book next autumn. And only things I needed from my father was support and occasional ride to library and of course drawing materials when I was a kid.

  • Cordelia

    ignorance like that truly scares me. it seems as if only women have to be “pure,” whatever that even means- otherwise they aren’t worth as much? because women are commodities? the whole thing just creeps me out.

  • wow..

    What the Fuck do they put in the water in Colorado Springs??

  • Twizzlehead

    You know, the US really is a free country.  I like that it allows anyone to be as crazy they want, and no one is going to do anything to them.  What’s more, the US actually does have free speech.

  • Moultonjune

    i wish i would have waited. i regret losing my virginity everyday

  • Bahh

    What is all this nonsense about a ‘wholesome, healthy life’? Why are these girls letting themselves be defined by what’s between their legs? There is nothing ’empowering’ or feminist about this practice, the girls are being told that their virginity is a form of capital and they should save it up, like you would do with cash. This practice encourages sexual ignorance and has a strong misogynistic undercurrent. Like many of other commenters have said … where are the ‘virgin sons’?

  • Just Me

    Yeah yeah, just make sure these poor girls know they are the possessions of men for their entire lives! My dad used to tell me what a good idea Uni would be when I was in my teens, not tell me marriage was the be all and end all. He also would enquire in a positive way, as to weather or not I had a boyfriend and if I did he was happy for me. Consequently we have a great relationship, where we get along as equals, and friends, not as ‘daddy’ and ‘little Princess’, like it seems with these weirdos and their adult daughters. The relationship these girls have with their dads is plain weird and makes me feel a little uneasy, almost like it’s incest or something, emotional incest if anything, if that is a real thing. I pity all the females concerned it this farcical lifestyle.

  • sheena

    To be honest, that’s a better lifestyle choice than the typical Westernised way. Healthy father and daughter relationships, setting a high standard for a partner, respect for parents and setting high expectations are just a few of what the lifestyle promotes. If you ask me it depicts the ‘Asian Parenting’ except for the fact that the parents from the Virgin Daughters express their affection and reason out why they behave in a certain manner.

    I wish it covered more though in the sense that how are the girls at school and their achievements.

  • dianeg

    This is so ridiculously creepy. I find it so weird that the fathers are so obsessed with keeping their daughters “pure” and making sure they are virgins in a total sense of the word. I know that my Dad can be protective of me, but he also trusts me to make the right decisions for myself and for what I believe in. This documentary literally made me shudder. A father should not be THIS involved in his daughters “sexual” life (if you would call kissing sexual). Colorado Springs is the headquarters for the evangelical church in America, that is why it is so insane. Funnily enough, one of the most liberal colleges is in this town (Colorado College). I would never understand these types of people. I pity these children and the brainwashing they are being put through.

  • Devon

    First the fathers own their daughter’s sexuality, then the husbands own it. It’s a shame that at no point in these girls lives are they in control of their own bodies.

  • Val

    “i’ve kissed but one man in my life”… who has probably kissed a whole lot of other women, but that’s not important at all.

  • http://www.facebook.com/cristina.mihaela.ciobanu Cristina Mihaela Ciobanu

    Sick! These girls are turned into robots… Hannah (11:20) seems like she has been taught this speech… Great going America, after criticizing every single effing civilization on this world about how they handle human rights and women rights…
    What happens when the sex is absolutely NOTHING to them? It doesn’t matter, does it? Because liking sex is impure.. I wonder if the parents had pure sex all their lifes
    What happens if the husband proves to be someone with particular … wishes.. What if they are weirdos/perverts.. whatever?
    I don’t know, I’m not saying being a virgin until you love someone is bad, it’s not.. But marriage is such a HUGE commitment… and not even kissing, touching before, is so risky to the health of the relationship.
    All that aside, it’s just creepy that the parents, and especially the fathers get so involved is their daughter’s sex life.. I mean, deciding for the kids?! Bleah

  • Meroujan

    What these people do not realise is that the men are groomed to become narcissists and the women submissive baby machines/pleasure machines, Babysitters and cleaning ladies.

    When is this divide between men and women going to be made illegal? This way of thinking is destructive. I grew up in a very liberal home, making my own choices between right and wrong (for the most part), and I still have this ability to unconsciously be sexist. Why is that??

    Through generations and generations we have this engrained image of what a woman should be and this seriously needs to stop. The main issue with today’s society is that the women who try and instil this new way of thinking are guilty of imposing not the same but a different double standard where women should be equal but at the same time have different privileges to men.
    Only when both sexes fully let go of societal preconception and treat each other without considering gender can there be a equal playing field.

  • PhoenixF

    I think its just the dads obsession with their little girls not growing up… they know what they did at that age now they fear what other men will do… like some of you have said… why not focus on raising the boys the right way to treat the girls right in the first place? and how many boys do this ritual with their moms? swearing their moms to protect their virginity?

  • coyotebamba

    First thought: why is it that these parents push virginity instead of giving their daughters the right to really choose their sexual nature? why is it that the parents are even pushing any religion? freedom = love and love = freedom. They were born into a pre-determined box. A blinded form of experiencing their own existence and place in the world. It is most important to make your own choices. Putting your child behind mental fences is not love, it is not protection, it is selfish and lacking the ability to see a bigger picture.

    Second Thought: why is it so blatantly sexist? why are young boys not promised to their mothers to remain virgins? This is so alike many other religions. I was in Indonesia getting a ride from a Muslim friend and he was saying that he had to break up with the love of his life because there was a huge problem. I asked what was the problem and he said “well she was not a virgin.” So of coarse I responded with “well are you?” ….”no” he replied meekly. Why is this not expected of the men? why are the father figures blatantly sluts (oh it’s ok because I’m a man, but my daughter here is a virgin till she’s married…wtf ….obvious hypocrite) and stop trying to live vicariously through your daughter! Who care’s if you were sexually active back in the day, you are the one being sadistic now.

    Third Thought: These girls are brainwashed into thinking that the person they “first kiss” will be the answer. They are willing to put all their eggs into one basket and rely on this instead of themselves or the world. Well maybe god…hahah!

    Fourth Thought: The dads want their daughters to basically choose a man like them. Selfish…. Incestuous….Wow going out of your comfort zone is really that scary to trust your daughter to choose a man for herself. To trust your daughter to gain character. I’m ending with a quote “Until we lose ourselves there is no hope of finding ourselves”

    • bringmeredwine

      I loved this comment. Very well written!

  • Annie

    So basically, just because the fathers were manwhores in their younger years they’re denying their daughters to develop a healthy and reasonable stance on the physical part of relationships.Yeah… thumbs up for great parenting.

  • Demi

    are some of those children even old enough to understand the concept of purity?

  • fapfap

    $10 bucks says they have no friends

  • http://profiles.google.com/nephie8 Marisabel Munoz

    9:05 “it’s one of the 10 commandments” o.o what bible are they teaching those girls????

  • yosh

    why not give love to your daughter no matter what she does? why should she have to live in a way that their fathers most likely did not, and be less experienced and emotionally prepared than the man she’ll likely end up with? this is disgusting and not the message of unconditional love.

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  • tentacle-legs

    this just makes me feel sick.

  • Alex

    Just a thought… If this is in the name of Christian faith, why isn’t all the money spent on these events going to helping the poor? “Prosperity gospel” is a dangerous thing and smacks of an inward-focused reading of the Bible, which is even more dangerous when paired with the arbitrary legalism that concepts like “purity” promote.

    Meanwhile, what about the girls who don’t have dads? Didn’t Jesus call people to the minorities? This is so warped on so many levels. Good on them for wanting to protect their daughters, but there are far healthier ways to do so, for them, their daughters (meanwhile, how about the mothers?) and for the wider community.

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  • Christopher Staddon

    looks like it all about men’s fantasies

    • Jet

      I`m totally creeped out. They are living in a deluded bubble.

  • Ladyv19

    Is not about Christianity or morality. Is about protecting these poor girls from the disastrous results of “dating”. Is something men invented so they can use and fool women to get what they want and toss them aside like used garbage bags. They have no conscious no responsibilities no obligation to honor these women they disgrace by dating them. And we women like idiots accept it. I agree with my mother when she was telling me they won’t buy the cow if they get the milk for free. When women are “independent” meaning dress like second class street whores going to clubs which are worst than whorehouses and date then they shouldn’t expect men to respect them or take them serious. You have sex with a man you lose all the power and have no control anymore. I’m not a virgin nor I was when I got married. I made mistakes that now I bitterly regret and bang mu head against the wall . This “dating” disgrace left me irreversibly damaged with a lot of bitterness. I know girls have hormones and urges but someone should tech them how damaging and nerve wrecking relationships and boyfriends are. For their own protection.

    • canaduck

      I can’t tell whether you hate women or men more. Basically your argument is that women are sexless and too stupid to know what’s good for them and men are predatory beasts.

      Get a grip.

  • Righteous_Fury

    Truly disturbing.

    Where’s the Purity Ball for boys with their mothers?

    This is just like Islam. Sexism. Women are trophies that need to be protected.

    Every one of the dads in the doc, look like all the loser nerds I used to bully at school. Over-combed hair, cheap jeans and mobiles in leather holsters on their too-wide belts. They look like incestuous paedos coveting their own underage daughters.

    Pass the sick bucket